When hearts bleed, stones melt..

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When Goran Kimonovski wrote the Nature Vs. Nurture article to describe the role of parents and the environment on the upbringing of a child, I was intrigued. After all he had an interesting theory, “From the moment the self is discovered, two opposite forces influence the kids to turn them into the person they’ll eventually be — the first one is the force to conform to the norms and culturally accepted behavior of the group they belong to, driving their sense of identity; — the second is the force to find a niche for themselves so they can uniquely contribute to the group they belong to, but also out-compete the rest of the peers in their group in the constant race for social dominance, leadership, etc.” That had resulted in me having long and thoughtful discussions with my husband, because undeniably, it was a great topic!

And when Goran asked for help, I listened. He told me about a friend who was recently diagnosed with Stage 2 breast cancer and was shortly going to undergo surgery. She needed support, an interpreter to her feelings, an extended family of friends that she can rely on instead of breaking down in front of her 3 daughters when she felt the need. He asked me if I had time and a kind word to say. It was an impossible request to turn down.


I do not have a name, place or any other detail of her life to give you, but all I know is she is a mother who has been recently diagnosed with cancer. And she is not suffering and crying foul; she is creating awareness, for the most part, sounds positive and is always asking us to learn from her experience, while turning her own journey into a wealth of information for other women and men (who have women in their lives that they care about).

If you have two minutes to spare some days, please visit her and ask her to stay strong. Better yet, follow her, so you get automatic updates in your inbox and you can “comment” when something strikes a chord with you. In reality, when Goran and I talked, I did not know his intentions, also I did not care what he had in his mind. Today, I know. For just like him, I have the need to write, because I care and I care enough to ask for help. And I am not going to be able to do it alone.

Please click on the picture below to go to her site.

As always, thanks for your time guys, you mean a lot! Thank you.

Heart ™

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  1. Most certainly. I’m on my way there. Good for you.

  2. I am really inspired by your support to my friend Rachana!

    You’re right about my need to write! Look what have you done tonight with your article: http://mybin.wordpress.com/2010/10/03/compassion-in-a-flat-world/ … I’ve had this idea to write about compassion a while ago and my friends experience combined with your post brought clarity in my thoughts tonight … thank you for that!!!

  3. Well let me start at the beginning, I’ve been studying psychology since I’ve been in college and the topic of child development has been brought up constantly, how certain people believe a child is “Born with knowledge” and how a child is born with a blank slate and we have to “program” the baby to gain knowledge and so on. The first idea I believe was found to be false, I would have to refresh my memory being that topic was from last year, but the idea that Mr. Kimonovski presents is accurate. The idea being that the Father gives his own lessons to the child and that the mother does as well, all while the child searches for his own place and idea of what his life is meant to be (correct me if I’m wrong).

    I am also sorry to hear about your friend. Breast Cancer will be difficult, but I will surely head over there and leave some good thoughts for her. I’m not efficient in the category of Health, but the tumor picture threw me off, is breast cancer a tumor?

    Nevertheless, I’ll head over there and give some support. You are quite a caring person Rachana, keep being yourself because it inspires us all.

  4. I went to comment but I don’t have a blogspot account, sorry about that. I still offer my hope for her, keep going strong, it’s something I wouldn’t wish on anyone but with the support from your husband and 3 daughters I’m positive about the outcome. Never give up, never break down, for you are the strength that is needed to fight this.

    • Mojo, I went ahead and put your comments in her page to let her know of your attempts to support her! Thanks for trying so many times, I can’t believe people still go out of their way (so many times!) to make others feel better!! Thanks, that feeling meant a lot :)

  5. Thanks for the link and for telling me about her fight. I visited and left a comment over at the site.

  6. will check it out…
    what a divine heart you have,

  7. http://jingleyanqiu.wordpress.com/2010/10/06/thursday-poets-rally-week-30/

    welcome to Poets Rally week 30,
    let me know if you have a poem ready,
    Thanks for the support.

  8. Thank you Amy and SlamDunk, for your comments and visits to her blog, and thank you for filling me up with the thrill that comes with experiencing compassion! I am grateful. Kima, you put your feelings better than me in more than one way!! Your friendship rocks :)
    Mojo, hope you found my email helpful! :D
    Jingle, thank you for your visit here and also there, you are awesome!! Thank you for thinking of me for the rally, I might not have anything new, but I will try my very best to post an old one by tomorrow night.

  9. Lovely post. Off to visit your lady …

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